Correctly Breaking Up?
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| What is an acceptable break up nowadays? |
I have recently been asked the
question whether or not it is acceptable to break up with someone over a text
message or other form of messaging device, my answer to that is it depends. I
have seen cases where breakups have been done over a text and sometimes they
went well and other times not so much.
I think that this situation mainly
depends on how serious the relationship is because if it is a little fling that
has lasted maybe a couple weeks I would be okay with ending it over a text.
That being said, I do not think breaking up over a text is okay; it is just
that sometimes it could be reasonable. But, if it is a serious relationship
that has lasted over quite some time I think you should have the decency and
respect to at least go and talk to the person face to face to end it. You
obviously had feelings for this person if you were with them that long, you
should at least be able to talk to them about what is on your mind and be able
to face them and break up.
Another reason why it would be a
bad idea is that text messages can be ambiguous sometimes. If you say something
and you are not clear on the meaning, your partner may take it the wrong way
and then you might have yourself in deeper trouble and bigger problem. If you
were meaning to break up with the person and she does not think you are being
serious, nothing will be accomplished.
There is always that one exception
to the rule though. If you have a significant other that if you break up with
them they will go crazy and possibly physically hurt you, then a text would be
acceptable. You do not want some crazy person standing two feet away from you
after you break up with them. Just send the text and then go into hiding for a
few days or however long it takes for that person to cool down. But, in all
seriousness texting for a break up is not acceptable especially if you had
feelings for this person. I mean just think if they broke up with you over a
text. People should have enough respect for the other person in their life in
order to at least give them the time of day to meet with them to break up.
I completely agree that it depends. If the relationship isn't that serious, it might be acceptable. I think that if there is the possibility of the other person going crazy and hurting you, the breakup should be done over a phone call. I only say that because if you break up with someone over a text, they may misinterpret something you say, and make the situation worse
ReplyDeleteYou have a great point. If the break up will cause you physical harm, then breaking up over a text message is acceptable. Also, I never really thought about people having a fling and then breaking up; that poses a good point.But I also think that even if it is a fling, they should have the decency to end things on a face to face ordeal.
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